Whose Wedding Is it Anyways

Many times a client will come to their planner or their closest friends feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, hurt, even sometimes lost when planning their wedding because many times not only is one family member trying to take over, their may be two or three. We have experienced a few of our brides whose family members are reliving their wedding or having their own wedding through my bride. My bride usually tries to listen and respects the matriarchs in their family or don't want to disappoint them and give in to some many of their ideas, instead of following their own hearts.

The brides loses her sense of feeling of the type of ambiance she wanted portrayed at her wedding. She loses her touch in the linens she dreamed of having on the table; her smell to the flowers she felt were unique and different than the elegant roses her mom wanted to see on the table. Slowly as each week, then month that passes by, the bride loses sight of what she wanted. She loses all control in what she thought was her wedding!

As a event planner, it is our job to be support our bride, encourage her and be that buffer or interference when she definitely needs one. As you can see, she definitely needs one. We try to encourage our bride to always be true to herself because at the end of the day, she will look back and have regrets of what she should have done for her wedding. Be honest with your family and/or friends and share exactly how you feel. Ask them to respect your wishes. Try to incorporate their love and support in different ways while still getting what they want. The wedding day should be about the coupe and stress free as possible, even leading up to the wedding.

Now there are exceptions to the rule, every rule really. You also have to sometimes find a compromise or even let the other person have their way. We had a bride whose mom insisted she wear the family broach that had been passed down from many generations before. Now, the bride felt very strongly the broach did not go with her wedding dress. She did't want to hurt her mother nor not follow tradition. Do you just not give in? No, we compromised. The broach was pinned inside of her dressed, all feelings were spared and the family tradition was saved.

We have many, many stories to share, definitely not enough time to share them all in this blog. But whose wedding is it anyway, the family, the couple or just the bride? Definitely, not a easy answer because every family dynamics, customs, values are all different. Sometimes it also may boil down to whose covering the bill. You just never know whose wedding is it anyway.

Isn’t My Wedding Suppose to be about Me?

He proposed, both families were happy so it was thought, the bride was floating on cloud nine. The moment finally arrived, the moment she had been planning since she was a child but then she was suddenly awakening from the dream with a dose of reality.

Everyone had an opinion, everyone had “good” advice, everyone wanted something, everyone just knew that their wedding should be planned their way.

So many couples have come to Unforgettably Yours with different family backgrounds but with the same story. We want to make everyone happy, family members are mad and upset because we aren’t getting married where they thought, we aren't saying the vows or following the family traditions that have been passed down from generation to generation.

Many Brides has been at the end of their rope, wanting their dream and not have her mom live through her wedding.

Unforgettably Yours can help! We suggest couples follow a few simple steps to get their joy back in planning their wedding. Reuniting the family and getting everyone back to celebrating the couple wedding with the couple in mind.

How does that sound? Music to your ears, well read on to find out how to make it your reality now.

First, the couple has to decide for themselves what it is that THEY want. If it helps to write it down to set it in stone after the agreement is made, then do that.

Next, be rest assured you have a team already in each other. This is the beginning of a new life together, go in united!

Get the everyone together either separately or as a group, and set ALL of your boundaries. Inform of the plan the two of you have decided going forward it is going to be. Hire an event planner to be the buffer between the couple and the family, to help keep you focus on your goals and remind you at the end of the day, it is YOUR wedding so when you look back it will be your vision you will see and you will actually feel a happy ending to your wedding planning experience. Good Luck!!

A Work of Art

Sarah and Julian Mapp


On Saturday, May 16, 2009, Sarah & Julian began their voyage together, by making a commitment to one another in the sight of God, their family and friends. To make sure everything ran smoothly, for the couple, Unforgettably Yours Event Planning Service was elated to coordinate their wedding.

To begin the day, Sarah and Julian agreed to take a modernized approach, by doing their wedding photos before their wedding. Their first stop was downtown, in the heart of Lancaster City. Regina Martin, from Radiant Images Photography, used the setting to showcase that beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder. The elements of history and contemporary, only enhanced the true love that elevated from Sarah and Julian. Even as, the pictures in front of the theater illustrated the nightlife of the city, the cobblestone walk way confirmed the historical trend of the past.

Next they were off, to a local farm near the church. Sarah and Julian, utilized the land by taking pictures with various backdrops; large ceremonial tents, open fields of grass, gardens of beautiful fresh flowers and rustic barns. The Best Man , 2 Groomsmen and handsome young Ringbearer looked distinguished in their sharp black tuxedos and red ties; while the Maid of Honor and 2 bridesmaids complemented them in their red dresses. The flower girl, looked adorable in her off white dress.

With minutes to spare, Unforgettably Yours, promptly started the wedding at 4pm. A beautiful service was taken place at Salem United Church of Christ, in Lancaster Pa. To make the day even more special, Sarah's father took on two very important roles. He not only, took the emotional walk down the aisle, to commence Sarah on her next journey, but he also participated with the ceremony, by officiating their wedding vows. After the ceremony, the 125 guests participated in a lovely bubble exit. Thousands of bubbles surrounded the couple, encircling their love for one another.

Following the lovely ceremony, the bridal party and guest retreated, to celebrate Sarah and Julian's reunion, at The Mulberry Arts Studios. Guest were able to re-acquaint themselves in the Louise Gallery, during an hour long cocktail service, catered by Platinum Catering. Upon, completion of cocktails, the guests were escorted upstairs, to the North Gallery. The buffet style dinner was even more alluring, with The Most mesmerizing decor. The detailed drapery , hardwood floors and brick walls, made the room not only "posh and cool," but memorable as well.

After dinner, the couple made the night even more unforgettable, by performing a choreographed dance routine, dancing to Monica's "Angel of Mine." Julian captivated his guest s, when he effortlessly, lifted Sarah on to his shoulders, spinning her around in mid-air. Such a breathtaking scene, almost made the dance seem dreamlike. Family and friends were spellbound by the love radiating from the two.

The remainder of the evening was filled with fun, laughter and love. The guest had a great time and most importantly, the bride and groom were happy that Unforgettably Yours Events , as there to bring their vision to fruition!


Unforgettably Yours Event Planning Service
"Every event is more than a memorable moment, it is Unforgettably Yours!"

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Garden of Eve Wedding

Babatunde & Ashante Yuseff

On Saturday, August 16, 2008, Babatunde & Ashante exchanged their wedding vows in the lovely Meridian Hill Park within Downtown DC at 6 PM with the beautiful water fountain as their backdrop and natures ambience as their audience. Their wedding was filled with beautiful, vibrant colors! The bride shocked everyone with her stunning red gown.

Although it didn't start on time, Unforgettably Yours was able to maximize the moment and get the large wedding party down the aisle. Yep, there were 4 honorary bridesmaids & 4 honorary groomsmen, 7 bridesmaids & groomsmen each, 3 Matron/Maid of Honor & Best Men each, 2 flower girls, 2 ring bearers. If you lost count, that is a total of 32 members of the bridal party not including the parents, aunt & uncle and honorary guest that walk down the aisle before the bridal party. We also had a few host & hostesses of course to hand out the programs and assist the guest to their sits! Each member of the bridal party wore a different color representing the warm earthy tones found in nature. With all hands on deck, Unforgettably Yours Event Planning Service didn't miss a beat when it came to organizing the large party fit for Adam & Eve.

After the beautiful ceremony, the party took magnificent photos. Of course, they were outside with the statues, the large overflowing water fountain in the center of the park and beautiful trees served as the backdrop. Before long, the whole party retreated across the street to meet the 300+ guest for the rest of the cocktail hour. But not before the Bride & Groom had their first dance outside on the courtyard of the . Next, everyone was lead upstairs to finish off the night with a buffet style dinner and dancing overlooking the terrace. The night wasn't complete without the bride & groom changing into their African garments after the garter & bouquet toss!! The garments representing the Grooms Nigerian heritage was a big hit, even the children of the bride & groom strutted their stuff down the staircase to show off their new looks.

The party lasted well into the night. The guest were having a great time and most importantly, the bride and groom were happy that Unforgettably Yours Event Planning Service was there to pull it all off!!!

Unforgettably Yours Event Planning Service
"Every event is more than a memorable moment, it is Unforgettably Yours!"

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